Episode 124: Becoming Unshakable in Leadership and Life with Lovell Casiero
Lovell Casiero
Lovell Casiero
Inspirational speaker, life coach, author, and host of Unshakable
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Lovell Casiero is an inspirational speaker, life coach, author, and seasoned business leader whose career spans corporate leadership, hospitality, coaching, ministry, and motivational speaking.
She began her hospitality career as a sales administrator and went on to hold leadership roles with HEI and Crescent Hotels & Resorts before serving as Senior Vice President of Commercial Strategy at PM Hotel Group.
Along the way, Lovell took a nearly 10-year detour from hospitality to lead her family’s television ministry, helping grow it from local television stations to broadcasts on cable networks including BET.
With more than 30 years of coaching experience and more than 15 years as a speaker, Lovell has spoken to audiences as large as 20,000 people. She is the author of Lead Like A Girl and host of the podcast Unshakable. At the heart of her work is a simple belief: leadership is about achieving your truth.
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Becoming Unshakable in Leadership and Life with Lovell Casiero
What does it really mean to become Unshakable when life, leadership, and work do not go according to plan?
In this episode of Prospecting On Purpose®, Sara Murray sits down with inspirational speaker, life coach, author, and longtime hospitality leader Lovell Casiero for a candid conversation about authentic leadership, resilience, confidence, and learning to navigate the seasons that test us.
At the center of Lovell’s philosophy is the belief that leadership is about achieving your truth, not simply achieving success. She shares how some of the most difficult experiences in her life shaped the way she leads today, why authenticity is essential to earning trust, and how the stories we tell ourselves can either strengthen or limit us. Sara’s pre-interview materials identify this idea of leadership and truth as one of the central themes of Lovell’s work.
Sara and Lovell also explore mentorship, work-life balance, self-care, internal dialogue, and the pressure ambitious professionals often put on themselves. Lovell explains why the right mentor should not only reflect where you want to go professionally, but also the kind of life you actually want to build.
The conversation also gets into the mission behind Lovell’s podcast, Unshakable, where she hopes to share stories of people who have faced adversity, found a way forward, and emerged with greater resilience.
For anyone currently going through a season where they feel anything but unshakable, Lovell offers a simple reminder: take things one day at a time, use the resources around you, pay attention to the thoughts you are allowing to shape your experience, and keep putting one foot in front of the other.
This episode is a reminder that strong leadership is not about appearing perfect. It is about knowing who you are, showing up authentically, giving yourself grace, and continuing to move forward when life does not go according to plan.
What You’ll Learn
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why authenticity is foundational to trust and effective leadership
How personal experiences shape the leader you become
Why confidence grows when you stop trying to be who others expect you to be
How to find mentors who reflect the life you actually want to build
Why your internal dialogue can affect confidence, resilience, and performance
How work-life balance changes when you stop defining yourself solely by your career
Why ambitious leaders need to give themselves grace
How to recognize and challenge negative thought patterns
What it means to become Unshakable when life does not go according to plan
What to do when you find yourself in a season where you feel shaken
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Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
You’re listening to Prospecting On Purpose®, where we discuss all things prospecting, sales, business, and mindset. I’m your host, Sara Murray, a sales champion who’s here to show you that you can be a shark in business and still lead with intentionality and authenticity. Tune in each week as we dive into methods to connect with clients, communicate with confidence, and close the deal.
Good morning. Happy Friday, everyone. Welcome to Prospecting On Purpose® Live.
I am joined today by Lovell Casiero, an inspirational speaker, life coach, and author whose career spans both corporate leadership and ministry. A Southerner with four generations of inspirational leaders behind her, she rose from sales administrator to various leadership roles at hospitality powerhouses HEI, Crescent Hotels & Resorts, and Senior Vice President of Commercial Strategy at PM Hotel Group.
In between those roles, she took a 10-year detour from her hospitality career to run her family’s television ministry, growing it from local stations to a global broadcast on cable networks, including BET. Lovell has spent 30-plus years coaching and 15-plus years speaking, including a 20,000-person event in Kingston, Jamaica.
She is the author of the book Lead Like a Girl and host of the new podcast Unshakable. Her work and her business now focus on one core belief: leadership is about achieving your truth, which is what we’re going to get into today. Lovell, welcome to Prospecting On Purpose®.
Lovell Casiero
Thank you so much for having me, Sara. I am delighted to be here.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
I know. I feel like just in your bio alone, there are so many different places that we could start. But I just want to bubble it up and say, what does it mean to be Unshakable? How do you define being Unshakable?
Lovell Casiero
My journey has never been easy, but it’s always been successful.
Thank you for holding up my book, Lead Like a Girl. I really started to write that book because I needed a calling card for the speaking and everything that I wanted to do. What I found when I started writing the book was that I intended on writing leadership lessons, but I figured out that those leadership lessons were really lessons that came from a much deeper source of personal lessons.
My favorite chapter in the book is called The Decades That Built Me. You referenced in my introduction that I ran my dad’s television ministry for a decade, and that was under a lot of unfortunate circumstances that our family was going through, one of the worst things they had ever faced in their lives and in our lives.
I really realized that’s where my resilience was honed, and my perseverance, and my just fake-it-till-you-make-it type of stuff. I certainly never intended to actually run the ministry when I promised him I would do whatever I needed to do to keep it going. Because of my story being Unshakable and coming through that with a really solid faith foundation, as well as growing from that, it became a big part of what I wanted to share.
I said to you before we went live, my podcast is kind of potpourri because there’s no one theme. It’s not hospitality, it’s not leadership. It’s really about being Unshakable and coming through something. We’ll have guests like people who were born with disabilities but found a way to still fulfill the other gifts that God has given them.
I love the word Unshakable because I have never let life get me down, no matter what it has thrown my way. Life does what life does in all of our lives. I can’t wait for you and my audience to meet some of my amazing guests who make my story look like a walk in the park.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
Well, that’s how I felt reading your book. I mean, you took over your dad’s ministry at 30 years old. When I was 30, my dad and I were returning the keg to BevMo! for my birthday party. I didn’t have to have that level of resiliency.
What I really loved about your message and the way you show up, and the fact that you are so open and vulnerable, is that you can’t show your leadership style if you don’t talk about some of the personal challenges that got you those lessons or taught you how to lead that way.
I think a lot of people these days have sensitivity to bringing personal stuff into professional spaces. It’s like you have to have a personal version of you and a professional version of you, and some people don’t want to marry the two. What are your thoughts on that?
Lovell Casiero
I have always been an open book because I go back to my grandmother saying, “Just always be yourself.”
I write about that in the book. She was leaving this world, and we knew it. She wasn’t a rich lady. She worked in a cotton mill most of her life. She was a mill family, and I don’t know how many people watching would even understand what that means, but she lived in a mill house.
She had no wealth, but she was a very wise woman. I remember when she passed, just praying that I would get her wisdom because she was always so wise. It was when I was running the ministry, and she just said to me, “Always be you, Lovell. No one’s better than you, and you’re not better than anyone else.”
A lot of times when I’ve sat in these big corporate boardrooms with icons in the investment industry, or just people that you never thought you would be sitting there having this conversation with, and me telling them how to run their business from the corporate strategy perspective and being the expert at the table, I was just so grateful to be there.
I could not leave that behind because that’s who I am. I think it’s sad when a lot of times we’re trying to show up being the person other people want us to be.
We put this persona on that just doesn’t feel right. We were talking about milestone birthdays, and I’m way past you. You’re coming up on 40. I’m way past that. I could be your mom. The older I get, the less I like my clothes to fit tight. I like more comfortable clothes. I never thought I’d be that old lady doing that.
But when you put a persona on that doesn’t feel right to you, it’s not you doing you. It just doesn’t feel right. You walk around almost feeling like, ‘Oh my gosh, I hope people don’t find me out.’ That whole imposter syndrome comes from not doing you. When I end every podcast, I say, ‘Be safe, be well, do you.’
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
I love it.
Lovell Casiero
Because everybody else is taken, so just do you.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
Be safe, be well, do you. And Brynn says, ‘I love that leadership lessons are aligned with personal lessons. Too many people try to separate the two.’ I think, Lovell, to your point, yes, you feel uncomfortable projecting that persona, but other people can tell.
That has been a key to success for me too. I just let my Sara freak flag fly. In my sessions I say, “Being your authentic self gives people permission to be their authentic selves back to you.” You talk about leadership as finding your truth. How does that translate into confidence once you own your truth and you’re doing you?
Lovell Casiero
One thing that I have always had a lot of is confidence. You’d have to know my mom and dad. My mother was the ‘pull your bootstraps up’ type of mom, and my dad was ‘walk in that room like you own it.’ I write about this in the book as well.
I never realized until I started writing the book that my dad did that because even though he was a television evangelist and was on stages in front of tens of thousands of people, he was insecure about what he went through when he was coming up.
My granddaddy was a Pentecostal preacher, and people made fun of people who came from a Pentecostal movement. It took me becoming an adult to really understand the wisdom and the trials that made my parents say, ‘Pull your bootstraps up.’ My mother was a hardworking single mom who worked four jobs. My dad was standing on stage in front of thousands on television dealing with insecurities.
I say, ‘That’s me. That’s the person I became because of that.’ I’ve never tried to put on a front.
I’m so happy that I can look back on a 30-plus-year career and see people that I have impacted, and also see people that trusted me to lead them. If you are putting on a persona or you’re not doing you, people see that, and they don’t trust you.
The most important thing that a leader needs, and you can’t lead without it, is someone who is willing to follow you. People will follow you if they trust you. Being yourself and being authentic makes people trust you and want to follow you. And you know what? They’ll work hard for you. Every book I sign, I write, ‘Be authentically you.’
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
I love that you reminded us that leadership is about having people follow you. The way they follow you is through trust, and I think that is where the confidence comes through. It makes a lot of sense because if you have self-worth and self-awareness, that kind of leads to self-love, which then lets you be authentically you.
That’s how you signed my book too, so thank you.
Lovell Casiero
Almost every one I sign is like that.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
Authentic can be kind of a buzzword these days, but I like that you’re putting real, tangible language behind it because we need to give people permission to be themselves. Especially now in the digital era, when everyone’s using AI to write their stuff, we’re all sounding the same.
I think where the leaders are going to rise, and the confidence is going to rise, are the people who can lean into that authenticity. What I loved about your book is you have a lot of different leadership lessons. We could have spent a whole day talking about your book, but we had to narrow it down.
One thing that really stood out to me that I’d like to talk to you about is this concept of finding a mentor. How does mentorship build your confidence?
Lovell Casiero
I was so blessed to have so many people in my career who pulled for me and were there to help me when I didn’t know what I was doing or when I was making mistakes.
What I would recommend to anybody who is looking for a mentor or a coach is, first of all, you have to decide: what’s your ideal life? What’s your ideal life, not just your career? I don’t think you can compartmentalize coaching.
Some people say, ‘I’m a life coach.’ Some people say, ‘I’m an executive coach.’ I’m all of the above because we can’t really talk about your executive vision unless we understand where you are in your life. I would say find somebody who’s doing what you want to do.
I wish I would have invested more in coaching earlier in my career because I would have made a lot fewer mistakes. I was successful in spite of my mistakes, but I took a lot of detours that I had to fix or figure out.
You have to take everything that you bring to the table. We’re moms, we’re daughters, it depends on where you are in your life. I’m no longer responsible for raising children, but I’m responsible for helping my mom now. I always say, “You can have it all. You just can’t have it all at one time.”
Pull all of that together. Find somebody you admire and somebody who is doing life like you want to do it in all the facets of life, career, personal, spiritual, whatever those journeys are, and then call them.
Just call them. A lot of people say, ‘Oh, I know you’re so busy.’ I am never too busy to take a call from someone who is going through a toxic time at work and needs to talk about it. I spent 45 minutes yesterday talking to someone I’m in a women’s group with. I saw her posting for positive thoughts and prayers, and I said, ‘Let’s chat.’ I think it grounded her to be able to talk to someone who has lived through what she’s in the middle of. Sometimes you really can’t see the forest for the trees when you’re going through these things.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
There are a couple of threads I want to pull there. I actually thought you were going to say, ‘Find someone who has the skills that you want to learn.’ But I love that you framed it as finding someone who has your ideal life, because that aligns back to what we were talking about at the top of the interview, personal life and professional life.
If we’re only looking for mentors to help us grow on the corporate ladder, is that actually the ideal life we want? If it’s not, how can you find those mentors to guide you there? The other thing that’s interesting about mentorship is that I think it speaks to the confidence piece too.
I’ll share from my own business. If I get an opportunity on my desk and maybe I don’t have that exact experience, I know I have a whole Rolodex of mentors I can pull from. I think it actually increases my confidence because I know I can figure it out with the help of my mentors and my professional and personal network.
I think you’re right. They live together. Your professional network and your personal network are all an amalgamation of what’s there to support you in your success.
Lovell Casiero
I’m going to admit, I think I have a little bit of an advantage because I have more time in.
There was a point in my career where I was chasing that corporate ladder. I was climbing it and trying to climb it fast. Honestly, Sara, when I took an almost 10-year sabbatical to run my dad’s ministry, I felt like I lost time in the hospitality industry. I came back in with a vengeance, like, ‘I should be here, and I need to work fast to get into that position.’
What I realized when I got my first above-property role with Crescent was that as a leader, I was impacting other people’s lives. For me, it was a game changer. It was no longer, ‘Show me the money. Give me the next title.’ It had been that before.
I was sacrificing a lot of family time and watching my daughter grow up. I never look back and say, ‘If I had it to go over again,’ but if I had it to go over again, I would have more work-life balance. We as baby boomers kind of look at the other generations and think, ‘Work-life balance,’ but maybe they’re getting it right a little bit.
Maybe there’s a happy balance between what I did and what they’re doing. Nobody ever walks through a graveyard and sees the title ‘Executive Vice President of Commercial Strategies’ on a tombstone. I’m not going to be remembered for that.
It has to be not just, ‘What do I want in my career?’ but, ‘What do I want my life to look like?’
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
That’s why they’re married. Your work can still be a vehicle for your growth, but it can’t be the only component of what makes up a whole life.
I think that’s a really helpful reminder, probably one I needed to hear right now too, Lovell, so thank you for that.
Lovell Casiero
In this new phase of my life, since January, I’ve been pursuing my own goals and things that I wanted to do, like a podcast. I’ll write another book, maybe two. There’s just a lot that I want to do.
The one thing that was freaking me out a little bit was how not busy I am some days. Most of the time I’m busy creating and doing, but then I think back to those days when I sat on calls back to back to back to back and barely had time to take a restroom break. I’ve had a hard time dealing with, ‘Oh my God, I don’t have a call today.’
But I’m also much better mentally and physically. The time I have to go through some great habits every day and not have to forego those because work is taking over my life has made me a healthier and better person.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
That’s a great reminder. I experienced the same thing. It was a Friday, and I was driving my best friend, who was getting married, down to her dress fitting in San Diego. I had started my business, so it was a light Friday because I didn’t have any clients yet. She was on Teams calls the whole drive down, and I was feeling like, ‘Oh, that used to be me. I used to be that busy.’
Later I was like, ‘Wait a second, I can chillax. I can have a beer with my sushi lunch. I’m not jealous of this.’ We make work so much a part of our identity, and I think we all need that reminder that it doesn’t have to be.
One of the things I really liked about your book is that you have so many different lessons. We’re continuously learning, and your book was a reminder of that. I know your podcast stories are going to help remind people too about what is really important in life. Work is a huge chunk of it, but that’s not the only thing.
Lovell Casiero
Yeah, we all have to work. We have to make a living. When I left PM at the end of the year, we made an announcement at PM, and then I made my own personal announcement on social media. People were thinking I retired.
I was like, ‘Wait a minute. I didn’t retire.’ People were saying, ‘Congratulations on your retirement.’ No, I didn’t retire.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
One thing that I also wanted to dive into with you, because it surprised me, is that I read a lot of business books. I’m blessed to have a lot of authors on the show. I feel so cool that I made up a job for myself where I get to read business books and then talk to the author about it.
You had a chapter that I don’t see a ton in business books, and it was around harnessing the power of our thoughts. Why is this so important?
Lovell Casiero
Because we’re our worst critic.
Basically everything that I teach, speak from, or coach from is something that I’ve gone through myself. I’ve been an avid reader for many years. My daughter introduced me to my first Wayne Dyer book, and I fell in love with his philosophy.
Dr. Dyer has a book called Wishes Fulfilled, and I highly recommend that book. I’ve gifted it to more than 30 people, I’m sure. It is all about changing your speech to change your life. What I realized is that a lot of times we are telling ourselves how we’re going to fail and how we’re going to succeed, and how this is going to go, based on the things that we’re saying.
Every day in my devotion and meditation, I pray about the thoughts in my mind. The thoughts in my mind become words that I speak, and the words that I speak impact others. But before they even become speech, they affect me.
I have trained myself, and I don’t get it all right every day because we’re human, but when I hear myself speak negatively over myself, I change it to a positive. He speaks about ‘I am’ meditation, and I practice that riding down the road in my car: ‘I am blessed. I am cared for. I am healthy. I am of sound mind.’ I say that all the time because I believe, based on my spiritual background, that whatever you put behind ‘I am’ is going to become what you’re doing, who you are, how you’re reacting, and how others see you.
The first thing you have to do to be successful is make sure that you’re being kind to yourself and that the thoughts in your head are not tearing you down. Trust me when I tell you, there will be enough people out there in the corporate world who want to tear you down because they bring their own baggage to work. You have a better chance of winning that war if you are not tearing yourself down.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
It’s like you’re mentally strong. The example of someone tearing you down or someone being negative, we’ve all worked with those people. They’re clearly not managing their own thoughts. Would you agree?
Lovell Casiero
One hundred percent. I am the combination of the parents who raised me and the grandparents who influenced me, so there’s a lot of influence that you never get rid of. Not everybody has a positive upbringing.
Sometimes we have to take a minute and realize, ‘What were the influences that I want to keep and build on, and what were the influences that I want to flick away?’ We all have negative influences. My mom and dad were pioneers of divorce, and there was no such thing as shared custody.
I tell them now they did the best they could. But if I had allowed the baggage that was happening to me when I was eight, nine, or 10 years old to still cause me to feel the way I felt then, and I hadn’t worked on some of that and found forgiveness, it would still be affecting me. That’s a big thing. You have to be able to forgive people because if you hold a grudge, the grudge hurts you.
I don’t have it figured out. I’m not always perfect. There are some days when Lovell is dragging and I have to remind myself of all the things that I teach others. You have to be kind to yourself, and you have to admit when you need help with depression, anxiety, or baggage that you don’t want to carry around anymore.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
It’s up to us as adults to do the work and figure out what’s stopping us, because I think one of the biggest things that limits our growth and success is our own internal dialogue. I know I am very guilty of it too.
Lovell Casiero
I’ll add one more thing to that.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
Please.
Lovell Casiero
My sister and I talk about this all the time. This illustration is from my sister Joy, so I’ll give her credit. We were talking about this topic one day, and she said, “It’s like we walk around pulling this little red wagon behind us.”
We carry it with us everywhere we go, and it just depends on the people we encounter that day as to what we’re going to reach around behind us in that little red wagon and pull out. Sometimes the stuff you’re carrying around is not good, and sometimes it’s great. You have to constantly be aware that there are going to be those triggers.
I can’t manage how somebody treats me, but I can manage how I respond to how they treat me.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
That’s a great reminder, and I think the way you do that is by thinking about the situation and what it’s bringing up.
Lovell Casiero
Exactly. What does it bring up? Why did that suddenly make me want to go into fight or flight? You have to think about what that just brought up. Did that bring up what happened to me 20 years ago? Okay, I’m going to move on from that.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
I like the little red wagon and asking what you’re carrying around. I like that it could be good stuff too.
You made a comment that you’re not perfect, and I want to tie that back to the Unshakable piece. Right now I’m at a phase in my business, I’m in year four, and it’s going awesome. I love my clients. I feel really excited about the future and what I’m doing right now.
But I’ve noticed that I’m at that next level where I feel busy. I’ve outsourced, I have contractors helping me, I’m doing the things, I’m leveling up. But I find myself focusing on the one email I forgot to send or the one project I didn’t get to, and I don’t even celebrate.
We had a monster, awesome event that I organized with a client this Wednesday. It was done, everyone was hugging me and saying how great it was, and in my head I’m like, ‘Okay, what’s next? I forgot to do that thing.’ I’m definitely beating myself up a little bit and focusing on the things where I’m dropping the ball.
I know I’m not alone in this. I think this is probably more the rule than the exception. When you think about how to be Unshakable, what guidance would you give us if we are in that stage of feeling like we’re floundering?
Lovell Casiero
Just like I said earlier that we are our worst critics, I think we also typically set aggressive timelines, even when we’re in control of the timeline.
Creating a podcast studio was a labor of love, and I wanted it done a month ago. When we actually went live, not this past Wednesday but the Wednesday before, I was a month behind, if not more.
What you have to do is give yourself grace. It’s good to have a to-do list. I call my to-do list a life list, and I put everything on there. If I have to make an appointment to get my nails done, that goes on there, just so it reminds me of all the things I need to do.
However, I don’t clear that list every day. You’re a very successful entrepreneur, and four years down the road your business is what you dreamed it would be. You need to remind yourself that you got there. Maybe if you didn’t get to your emails today, there’s going to be time to get to them tomorrow.
I’m a big ‘timing is everything’ person. While I wanted the podcast to go live a month ago or more, the timing of it going live may be what was supposed to happen. I have this saying: ‘A thousand years is a day to God, and a day is a thousand years to God.’
I have to remind myself of that because I tell people, ‘I’m not an A+ personality, I’m an A+++ personality’ when it comes to being driven, having a vision board and a life list, and all these things I want to do. But you have to remember that you need self-care.
You can’t do everything in one day. You can’t be all things to all people. When you start trying to do that, you’re going to burn out, and then you’re not going to be there for any of the people you support, whether it’s clients, children, parents, spouses, whatever. It’s that whole idea of putting the oxygen mask on yourself first before you help others.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
Absolutely. I like that you remind us it starts with our thoughts, because I think everyone beats themselves up maybe now more than ever. We’re dealing with stimulation overload and comparing ourselves to others on the internet, and we know nothing about their lives.
It’s a nice reminder that if we slow down, we can show up more fully.
Lovell Casiero
We could do a whole show on the impact that the internet has had on our thought process about ourselves and our ego, if you will. I’m not a fan of ego, but even being here today on camera puts a higher level of accountability on things that we should just let go.
Some days when I have to film, I start judging: ‘I look tired today,’ or ‘I don’t…’ I’ve had to just say, ‘Get over it, Lovell. You’re the only person giving yourself a hard time about that. Nobody is saying, “Oh my God, did you see how tired she looked?”’ It is all up here.
That’s when you have to just let it go. Just let it go.
Lovell Casiero
One thing you just made me think of: with Unshakable, I hope that it becomes a beacon of light in a world that needs a beacon of light.
There is so much discord, so much disagreement, so much in the geopolitical climate. I don’t want to make any conversation political. I don’t care what your politics are. There’s so much negative in this world that I hope Unshakable becomes a beacon of light for people who are going through life as life throws things at them and helps them find a person who has already been down that path, been through that situation, and found their way to the other side unshaken.
I once told somebody I would love to win a Nobel Peace Prize. I would love to bring a lot more peace to the world and to the interactions we have as people by telling stories of positivity, resilience, and lives that could have been a whole lot different, but people chose to take the high road.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
I love that.
Lovell Casiero
That’s what I hope it brings to light.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
That was going to be one of my closing questions: what can we expect from Unshakable? When you do anything, Simon Sinek and a lot of other thought leaders say to always start with why.
Why are you doing this? I feel like you just so eloquently described your why for starting Unshakable, so I’m so excited to tune into the show. I will make sure to link everything in the show notes and the comments on LinkedIn and YouTube as well so people can find it. I know the first two episodes are already out.
Lovell Casiero
Two episodes are out. Episodes one and two are my story of running the ministry and how that developed a lot of traits in me. I start having guests next week.
I would also say, if there is someone watching this and you have an Unshakable story, I want to hear from you. I want to bring your story to others. I want to help you be that beacon.
Somebody right now, as we’re sitting here having this conversation, is getting a cancer diagnosis. Somebody has a child who is going off and, in our opinion as a parent, may be ruining their life or getting into things they shouldn’t get into. Somebody is facing divorce. Somebody is trying to build a business, and you know what building a business is like as a founder.
There are all these stories, and nothing is off the table as long as it ends in a testimony of resilience and overcoming. Unfortunately, not every story does. What I want to do is dissect how these people found a way.
In a future show, I’ll have a woman who has no use of her arms and legs, but she’s an artist and she draws with her mouth. A lot of people would have just sat back, but she recognized that God gave her a gift and she figured out a way to bring that gift to life. I can barely draw a decent stick person.
She found a way to overcome her disability and bring her art and talent to life. Those are the kinds of stories that need to be told. Less about all the negative that’s going on in the world. Let’s talk about the good.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
It’s such a nice reminder to be grateful for our health if we have it. You also made a really good point that, especially in our work environments, if someone does something that fires you up, it’s a nice reminder to step back and realize we don’t know what other people are dealing with in their personal lives.
Sometimes they’ll share if we have that trust, but I think it’s a nice reminder to be kind. I’m so excited to tune into your show and be inspired by it.
Before I ask where people can find you and connect with you, I want to ask one more question. If someone is in a season where they’re feeling anything but Unshakable, what’s the biggest nugget of advice you can leave us with?
Lovell Casiero
Great question. I go back to when I was handed the reins of the ministry literally in the seconds it took the judge to sentence my dad to 55 years in prison. I was not only shaken, I was broken.
I had a lot of moments where people had no idea what I was going through because I had to take care of the ministry, Dad, and many other things that fell to me to take care of.
Looking back, I realized I just got up every day and put one foot in front of the other. I tried to look for the successes that day, what we were able to accomplish. It felt like there were more setbacks than comebacks during those first couple of years.
I would say, take it one day at a time. The worst thing you can do is sit down and give in to the attack you’re under. It could be an attack on your health, your finances, your job, or your business. You have to realize, ‘What are the tools and resources that I can bring to the table to get through this?’
We all go through something. Whether it’s big, little, or whatever, it’s meaningful to us. I always tell people, ‘I don’t know how heavy your cross is because I’m not carrying it.’ Take it one day at a time. Don’t get too far out into the future. A lot of the things we worry about in a situation like that never happen anyway.
I’ve been spending a lot of time with my uncle, and he’s facing some health issues right now. I told him yesterday, ‘This is why you are going to be okay,’ because he has the best attitude. He’s going to do what he has to do to treat the situation, but he’s not sitting down. He’s not giving up. He’s not ‘woe is me.’ He says, ‘If this is the setback life gave me, I’m going to be the comeback in this situation.’
Don’t overthink it. Don’t overthink it.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
I like that. One step at a time, don’t give in to the attack, don’t overthink it, and watch our thoughts.
Lovell Casiero
Yeah.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
Awesome. I am so grateful that our paths crossed and that we were able to spend this time together. I want to thank you for lending your time, wisdom, and expertise to the Prospecting On Purpose® audience, both live and on the show.
Where can people find you if they want to learn more?
Lovell Casiero
Oh, I am so accessible. I’m on LinkedIn. I can provide my Linktree link to you if you want to put it in there. It will take you to my website, LovellCasiero.com. There are a lot of ways. You can also just call me. I’m old, so I like the old-fashioned conversation instead of all of that.
LovellCasiero.com really has all of the information that you’d need. The book is called Lead Like a Girl. It’s for all genders and all audiences. You’re definitely going to have good takeaways, and the podcast is Unshakable.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
Lovell, thank you so much for joining us today. I’m looking forward to having you in my personal network.
Lovell Casiero
Thank you, Sara. Same. I really have enjoyed this and am so glad that we are now acquainted. Thank you so much.
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose®
Of course. I can’t wait to tune in. Everyone, thanks so much for joining, and have a great Friday and a great weekend.
Thank you so much for listening to the Prospecting On Purpose® podcast. If you loved what you heard today, subscribe to the podcast and please rate and leave a review. For more info on me, or if you’d like to work together, feel free to go to my website, saramurray.com. On social media, I’m usually hanging out @saramurraysales.
Thanks again for joining me, and I’ll see you next time.
Connect with Lovell Casiero
Website: https://lovellcasiero.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lovellcasiero/
Lead Like a Girl: https://lovellcasiero.com/lead-like-a-girl/
Unshakable with Lovell Casiero: https://lovellcasiero.com/unshakable-with-lovell-casiero/
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unshakable-with-lovell-casiero/id1893200040
Connect with Sara Murray
Sara Murray - Prospecting On Purpose® Podcast: https://pod.link/1663074741
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@saramurraysales
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saramurraysales/
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